40 Self Help Quiz Questions to “Who Am I”?
Article by Kathleen Fuller, PhD
Let’s begin by defining a boundary or a limit. Think of it this way, how far can you or another go in a relationship and still be comfortable? The key here is to know when you are uncomfortable and have enough self-esteem to decide to limit in some way. Knowing who you are begins with your boundaries or limits. As you state your boundaries to others you can then sort out who is safe and who is not by the way another either respects your boundaries or does not.
How can you know what your boundaries and limits are when you may have grown up in a family that didn’t have healthy boundaries? Who can learn healthy boundaries when there was no one to model clear limits or boundaries? The following forty Self Help Quiz Questions can help you know your limits.
Write the numbers 1-40 and select the answer (never, seldom, occasionally, often, usually) that is your first impulse. If you second guess yourself you are being dishonest. And that awareness could to be explored another time. There is no perfect answer just do the best you can.
never seldom occasionally often usually
1. I can’t decide about things.
2. I find it hard to say no to people.
3. I feel my happiness depends on others.
4. I am uncomfortable looking others in the eyes.
5. I find I get involved with others who end up hurting me in some way.
6. I tend to trust others right off.
7. I’d rather help another than take care of myself
.8. Others’ opinions and beliefs are more important than my own.
9. Others use or take my things without asking.
10. I am uncomfortable asking for what I want or need.
11. I feel responsible for others’ feelings.
12. I don’t have much alone time.
13. I get angry or irritated with others.
14. I’d rather go along with others than say what I want to do.
15. I feel guilty or bad for being so different from others.
16. I feel anxious, fearful, or stressed.
17. I spend most of my time helping others and I don’t tend to my wants or needs.
18. I feel empty in life like something is missing.
19. I feel hurt.
20. I react and I am sensitive to criticism.
21. I tend to be loyal in relationships even though I am being hurt.
22. I feel sad.
23. I tend to feel what others are feeling or take those feeling on myself.
24. I tend to take on the moods of those close to me.
25. It’s difficult for me to know what I believe or think.
26. I feel my happiness depends on things outside myself.
27. I feel good.
28. I have a difficult time knowing what I feel.
29. I see myself tending to get involved with those that are bad for me.
30. It is difficult for me to make decisions.
31. It is difficult for me to keep a confidence or secret that is shared with me.
32. I tend to get caught up and in the middle of other people’s problems.
33. If someone I am with in public acts up, I feel embarrassed.
34. I lend others money and don’t get it back on time.
35. Some never pay me back.
36. I feel ashamed or embarrassed.
37. It is not easy for me to know in my heart my relationship with a Higher Power or God as I know it.
38. I want to rely on what others believe about spiritual or religious matters.
39. I feel I put more into relationships than I receive from those relationships.
40. My friends or acquaintances have a hard time keeping secrets or confidences which I share with them.
If you have answered occasionally, often, usually, to any of the above questions you may find it useful to continue exploring a healing journey that includes a 12 step group experience and a therapist. The outcome of doing a healing journey is a feeling of freedom and peace. I know from a personal healing journey it is worth it.
About the Author
Award winning Dr. Fuller is a recovered and a leading eating disorder expert who can show you how to be free of guilt, self hate and eat normally with pleasure and peace of mind. What if you could have the relationship you want or the body you want? You can. Fuller