Cutting it to Positive Self Esteem
Article by Victoria Verrall
Positive self esteem can be developed through numerous ways if we open up to the possibility of attainment. However getting to the causes of negative self esteem will bring quicker, better and lasting results. Imagine peeling an onion layer by layer until you get to the inside of the onion: well that’s exactly one has to do in getting to the root causes of negative self esteem. This is because they may be different reasons or events that contributed to this and hence peeling back gives the opportunity for all the different layers to be dealt with hence acquiring positive self esteem.
Ways we can peel our way to positive self esteem
Check your belief system: Positive self esteem will be a chore if you have self sabotaging beliefs. These are beliefs were you do not feel worthy of anything good to come your way because you feel either you have to be punished of or to be close to God you have to live a certain way. Now all the spiritual books I have come across have heroes and most of these heroes lived spiritual lives but were wealthy and happy. To put it lightly if you are not happy, confident, rich or loved, there are belief systems in your subconscious mind that you may not be aware of holding you back. However if you change the belief system you can attain positive self esteem easily.
Forgive: You will encounter positive self esteem if you find forgiveness for those who wronged you and forgive yourself for those you have wronged. I recently did an exercise that opened my understanding in a whole new way. If you write down the person who wronged you, what they did and how it was done. Next write down how that painful event helped you: yes it helped you in some way. Now do the same for those you wronged and write down how those wrongs helped you and them. You will find that all these negative events for example arguments are cosmic set ups for us to grow. However if you are holding on to the hurt they caused they become useless because you have failed to pick up the intended lesson. For example I lost my parents earlier in life and for years I held that trauma and the anger that came with it: why me I kept saying that to God but having done that exercise, I realised that I would not have been the person I am today without having experienced that trauma. So positive self esteem can be attained through forgiveness, which neutralises your emotions.
Surrender: This is possibly the easiest, way to get positive self esteem as we to live in moments. When we learn to stop controlling end results of situations or events we become happier and more confident. This is best taught by meditation spiritual leaders who teach the mind to focus so that you can easily leave blissfully in the middle of chaos. Most of us are programmed to have things our way and often as you know they do not go our way: if you are not a surrendered person, this will cause so much pain and unhappiness. For those who have learnt to surrender they simply acknowledge things are what they are and perhaps try to learn from the event and move on. In learning surrender positive self esteem is a walk in the park.
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